November 12, 2007
RIYADH (Reuters) - Two boys, one Saudi and one Turkish, will swap homes four years after a hospital gave them to the wrong parents, a Saudi newspaper said Wednesday.
"Mistakes are always possible, but we will try to find who was responsible and hold them to account so it doesn't happen again," Prince Mishaal bin Saud, governor of Najran in the far south of the kingdom, said in comments in al-Watan newspaper.
Saudi health authorities had been reluctant to accept the Turkish father's claim that his son Yacoub was not his, but DNA tests carried out this week proved him right.
Published pictures show a distinctly Saudi-looking Yacoub.
The father of the other child, Saudi national Mohammed al-Monjem, had no inkling that pale-skinned Ali was not his. He will press a 50 million riyal ($13 million) compensation claim against the health ministry, al-Watan said.
Of course I had to drag Hd and put him in this situation and ask what he would do. He of course knew he was getting into trouble and said that he saw Ashu coming out of me and hence he ll never be in this situation technically! Men! Anyway, after much prodding he said he ll swap if that's what the other parents want! WHAT? Who cares what anyone wants? What do you want, Dude? You mean you will just give up Ashu just because shes not biologically yours? Now he knew for sure he was in trouble and said he had no choice and turned the table and asked what I would do. Hah, that's easy! I ll take Ashu and disappear from the face of the Earth! Why would I give her up? So he tried to make me feel guilty about abandoning my biological child. But then, its all Math, is nt it? 9 months in my tummy Vs 2 1/2 years of being together every single day and seeing the child blossom. Tough but then that's what came to my mind instantly.
What would you do?
November 8, 2007
Dhamaaka Diwali Wishes to all the Mommies and their families! Wishing you all a wonderful year ahead!
Click here to see some wonderful Diwali cards done by Children from the UK which they sent to the BBC. The above picture is one of them.
October 23, 2007
My favorite lines are:
Get a dose of,"I don't care who started it!
You're grounded until you're 36"
Get your story straight and tell the truth for once, for heaven's sake
And if all your friends jumped off a cliff would you jump, too?
If I've said it once, I've said at least a thousand times before
That you're too old to act this way
It must be your father's DNA
Link Via Broom.
October 22, 2007
Ten Steps to Wordpress Nirvana by the Super Nice Poppins.
October 13, 2007
parents have an in built reflux that wants to reach out and wipe away all their
child’s misery. But are they really that delicate? The truth is children are
pretty resilient. Much resilient than what we give them credit for!
She has also written about the childhood of Nobel Laureate Dr.Mario Capecchi. Very inspiring. We are waiting for a follow up post too.
August 22, 2007
I hear ya, Lakshmi!
These kids are
three-and-half-years old, for God's sake. And what is worse, there
is immediate pressure on the child to perform well. Usually the competitions are
for stuff like "Bhagavat Gita Recitation". These kids are not even past their
kid-talk (my child cannot even pronounce "R" yet, and it is still "Labbit eat
Callot"), to actually recite heavy-duty Sanskrit slokas from the Gita AND BE
JUDGED FOR IT. Yes, it is probably a good idea to catch them young and
having them lisp the Gita is probably the most beautiful sound to a parent's
ear, but competitions? Why? Why induce the attitude of one-upping at
Link via The Visitor.
July 25, 2007
Ushas post touches on why Indians seem to prefer a male child and wonders what we women can do to change the situation.
We can be examples of what a woman can be and can do.We can help
change the mindset.Or we can simply ignore the statistic that half a million
girl babies are killed every year and read the supplement on woman power that
came with India Today.
The Rational Fool writes a touching letter to his little sister who is no more. He wonders about the things which force women to abort female foetuses.
I'll pose you a hypothetical situation. Let's say a woman is raped,Mad Momma joins in.
and she is pregnant against her will. A staunch feminist, she decides that if it
were a female fetus, she'd carry it to full term, but she's absolutely opposed
to bringing forth a male progeny of the rapist. She wishes to have a gender test
done before she made the choice. I don't think that the State or anyone else has
any business interfering with her choice, do you? Abortion against your will is
a different matter altogether.
Don't fool yourself that it's only the poor and uneducated who are
doing it. They can barely afford the sex-determining ultrasound. They throw away
new borns. The foetuses are thrown away by us. The middle class. We're the ones
who can afford the expensive ultrasound in a shady bylane. We're the ones who
have so little value for human life.
DotMom suggests a solution.
I think the only true solution to female infanticide and female
fetus abortion is to give practical solutions. Let’s start by changing the
International Adoption laws in India. It is nearly impossible for international
parents (who are not Indian citizens) to adopt an Indian child today. I know in
the US alone there are long lines at adoption agencies to get a baby. The
adoptive families will be happy to give a sum of money to the mother of the girl
child for her routine medical care, food etc, along with footing any other
medical bills and then some. Isn’t this a sensible solution?
My two cents on this topic - I do think literacy is the solution. Making education compulsory for all children and strict laws against child labor might help. But then, bribe and dowry are illegal in India. Child labor is illegal. Female foeticide and sex determination tests are also illegal. But are all these laws stopping anyone? I mean, the doctors who are performing the illegal abortions and the ultra sound technicians who are performing the illegal gender determining scans are educated, right? What good is that doing? I think the laws should be more strict on these people first. On an individual level, we all can help by sponsoring a girl child. Its a start.
Do leave your valuable suggestions, solutions or any other information on these issues in any of the above blogs or here. Let us be the change.
July 15, 2007
Link via Manchus.
July 13, 2007
July 3, 2007
This post might also have answers for Lakshmis questions about brining up a child in a multilingual environment.
June 29, 2007
Welcome to Planet Earth -
You can easily register with the Asian American Donor Program (AADP) Registry at http://www.aadp.org . The procedure to register is less than a minute and is not invasive, just a simple swab of the mouth. The AADP recommends that people read about the actual marrow donation procedure on the website before registering.
Go to http://www.helpvinay.org/ for more information.
June 22, 2007
Kay invites Mommies from Toronto for a get together. Click here for details.
And I think the first ever Mommies meet was initiated by Poppins(You will go down in history, P!) in Bangalore and here are the details from the meet which happened early this month.
Any Moms in Zurich interested in this lonely soul?!
June 20, 2007
Heres Sunitas posts on Piyush. Take heart Sunita. You are a wonderful person and a great inspiration to Moms like me.
June 18, 2007
Do check out the fascinating stories of
June 17, 2007
Dees heartfelt letter to her Appa. *Your dad helped your mom in cooking? Awww....*
All of four months and Mittu has a way with her words in a letter to her Appa!
Malini describes the day and writes about her father and surprise, surprise - her FIL too! ;)
Promises are made to be broken, Noon! Especially to husbands! ;)
Sheela as usual waves her magic wand and creates exquisite stuff. Check out here and here for some craft ideas.
Heres our dear MM's posts on three generation of fathers! *Warning: This post is a real tear jerker*
And last but not the least, here are both the Trishnas and their poignant posts on their Dads on their Birthdays - Happy Birthday Papa and Daddy...
Long live Dads!
June 16, 2007
Kiran tells us about her dad and the brats dad.
Moppets Mom is a Daddys girl!
Poppins' valid fears about Daddies and their Cholesterol.
Sunitas touching post on her dad.
Tharini as always paints a picture with her words in her post - Pops!
Wishing all the Daddies a very special Fathers Day! Go on Moms, make it an unforgettable day for the dads! ;)
June 14, 2007
Here's Sundars post on the same subject and his plan for a kid friendly airlines! :)
after reading this article by Vir Sanghvi.
Personally, this popular opinion that "mothers want the entire world to praise their kids" gets my goat! I dont go to all that trouble of traveling with a toddler so that some tom, dick and harry can say how cute my daughter is! For all you know, I would be happy if total strangers ignore my daughter in this bad, bad world we currently live in!
Links via The Visitor.
May 29, 2007
Congratulations Uma on the new addition to your family. Wishing the baby everything wonderful!
May 18, 2007
May 15, 2007
My personal favorite point is this one:
|Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.|
May 13, 2007
May 9, 2007
"A friend of mine keeps calling my kids over for a play date with her kids.They're all the same age. For some reason, my children don't want to go to her house. They haven't said why, but they are most reluctant. I suspect it's because the parents yell at their children a lot, and that scares my kids.I don't know how to say no to this woman. I usually don't reciprocate by calling her kids over, but she doesn't seem to get the hint. In fact, she'll call and invite her kids over. I have run out of excuses now. I can't tell her what the problem is to her face - Indians simply don't do that."
She also adds that her kids have no problem if her friends children come to their place. They just don't want to go to her friends house.
May 7, 2007
Please do leave a link in the comment box if any of you have any relevant information.
Thanks a tonne, Visitor.
Today CNN-IBN was flashing a 'news' item about baby Shiv being given for adoption to a family after a court battle - read Court gives abandoned baby to millionaire family.
In my youth, after reading 'inspirational stories' in Reader's Digest, in a bout of idealism, I too had often harboured visions of having adopted children. I remember that some friends of ours, a childless couple by choice, had adopted a boy and a girl. I used to be surprised that they had decided to have only adopted children, because I think it requires mental maturity and strength to be able to do it. Today, if I ask myself whether I am mentally prepared to adopt a child, my response would be no. I think I dont possess the mental reserve to take up such a commitment.
From what they said, I gathered that the legal adoption process in India, was a rigorous and often times a time-consuming process. And not without reason - they check the background of the prospective parents, their marital stability, financial stability, mental preparedness and various other parameters.
Recently in Indian Mommies, in a debate on whether one should have the second baby or not, some mommies had expressed the desire to adopt a second child.
I thought it might be useful to share some information regarding the adoption process in India. (Courtesy: Google) :)
To start with one can see the FAQ section of indianngos.com - which gives a brief outline of the process through its FAQ.
ICHILD - India Adoption Resources - is a website and mailing list, that gives support to persons who are thinking of adoption. I quote from their web-site:
The purpose of the ICHILD WEB SITE & MAILING LISTS would hopefully be to offer a source of inspiration, information, support & resources for those interested in adoption from India and the subcontinent. And of course, to help bring together prospective adoptive parents and children in India who wait for their families.
This link takes you to the adoption process page from their site.
Alliance for Children is an adoption agency that places children with adoptive parents.
The Alliance for Children, Inc. is a non-profit international adoption agency based in Massachusetts, serving families throughout the USA.
We have placed thousands of children from around the world in permanent adoptive homes.
They are currently not accepting applications for adoption of children from India.
Catalysts for Social Action (CSA) - This site also provides some info on in-country adoption process, costs etc.
Catalysts for Social Action (CSA) is a Social Welfare Organization promoted by Kale Consultants Ltd., India, a reputed IT Consulting Company with global presence. CSA commenced operations in September 2002. We work on Child Welfare which includes Adoption, Foster Care, and Institutionalised Rehabilitation. Our specific focus is on Adoption. A key role for us is to work as Catalysts / Change Agents. Our aim is to enhance the total number of adoptions in the country. Also, to work towards better child care while the child is institutionalized.
CARA - Central Adoption Resource Agency - this site provides information on adoption in/from India. One can download relevant forms too from here.
Central Adoption Resource Agency is an autonomous body under the Ministry of Women & Child Development, which functions as the Central Authority of the Government of India in matters related to adoptions.
Read their FAQ.
I have obtained all the above information from the web. The information is neither comprehensive nor definitive.
April 30, 2007
Lesson learnt: Potty trained children are good for the environment! Are you kids listening? ;)
April 29, 2007
Link via The Visitor.
April 27, 2007
April 26, 2007
You go Girl! All our wishes are with you even if they are only virtual!
April 25, 2007
|Elephants take their young everywhere with them. Remember the elephant patrol in Jungle Book? Birds leave their young behind. My own experience as an Indian mother of a 20 month old, tells me you could enjoy being the elephant.|
April 24, 2007
|Now, I'm a fierce advocate of breast feeding but if for whatever reasons, I can't breast feed my baby, I will not, for one second hesitate in giving her formula. But there is absolutely no way I would let someone else breast feed my baby.|
What are your thoughts?
April 20, 2007
Sundar, Orchid, Fuzzy, SS and the Desimomzclub share their fears.
April 18, 2007
Sunita celebrates her daughters birthday. Pretty frock! :)
Moppets mom makes it a Happy Day.
SM plans a double whammy.
If I have missed any recent birthday bash, please comment with a link. I know for sure four more birthdays are coming up. March and April seems to be a busy month! ;)
April 17, 2007
That said, the World is definitely easier for Righties than Lefties. Very unfair.
April 16, 2007
|My mom says that I should use bitter tasting juice or mittens but I'm loathe to try it. It feels wrong somehow, besides it may not work anyways. I am seriously at a loss on what to do for this one.|
April 15, 2007
April 14, 2007
Hats off to all the working moms who take the tough decision to leave their babies first. I cried when starting school, college and even work. I realize I have issues!
April 12, 2007
Rohinis very informative post is here.
Mad Mommas emotional post is here.
Mine is here.
Desimomzclub has two posts here and here.
Do leave a link in the comment if you have done a post on the same subject.
April 6, 2007
It seems like everyone of our friends is pregnant again. After a difficult pregnancy and first year, we have decided not to have another child. Most of the time I am fine with this decision, but every now and then, it feels strange and scary. I find myself revisiting the decision every few weeks and tormenting myself over whether it is the right thing or not. I feel guilty that I may be depriving my son of a sibling and then I wonder whether that is the right motivation for another child. Should I have another one only because I am afraid that this one will be lonely ?
As Indians, we live in a society where 2 kids is the norm. It is something everyone takes for granted. It is really difficult being the exception rather than the norm. I am working on coming to terms with this tough decision and was hoping to hear some words of wisdom from parents with one child who have found peace with their decision, instead of regrets.
I would really appreciate it if you could address this issue in indianmommies.blogspot.com
Sahithis Mom has written a post on the same dilemma here. Seems like yesterday when I was going through the same dilemma for the first one. It never ends, does it?
I'm sure every parent with a toddler will relate to this one. Why don't you try writing an open letter too? Do mail me the link if you do.
April 5, 2007
|Her regular doctor was out, so we saw another doctor. "So she has a stomach ache?" the doctor asked. I waved my hand and said "I don't know ..." thinking about how to put it without hurting Summy's feelings.|
Belated Birthday wishes, Kiddo! :)
Don't forget to go through the comment section for lots of useful information on Hospitals and Doctors.
Mention if you don't want to be given credit.
It would be great if you can keep this site in mind when you are reading something interesting or informative on any issue related to Parenthood and send a mail to indianmommies at gmail dot com with the link.
You can also send me an email if you need any information and I can post your query here.
Your suggestions are most welcome. indianmommies at gmail dot com is the email id to contact. Hope to see an active contribution from all of you.
April 4, 2007
Thanks Akkare for the link.
This reminds me to publish the post I have in my draft for a very long time on Moms and their belief in God.
I always thought that I started blogging inspired by you. But today I found out you started blogging a couple of months after me. Anyways you are my inspiration Tharini! :) Heres to you.